When a family welcomes their newborn, the life of a couple changes dramatically. Nowadays, we are increasingly moving away from stereotypical thinking and behavior when a mother takes care of children and a father earns a living. This line between sexes is practically erased today. It is desirable that both parents try to devote time and effort to their offspring; wanting to succeed in upbringing a child is necessary because we all tend to imitate our parents’ behavior in adulthood. Children, especially little ones, see mom and dad as role models and a safe haven where love and care can always be found. The parenthood path is not easy and long, so remember some tips to be an authority figure for your kids and be a good friend for them.
So the first piece of advice for future and current fathers is to respect and support their spouses. You must act as a united front if your children misbehave and celebrate their success together. The atmosphere in the home is vital for the children to feel relaxed, and as a father, you should strive to provide it. Being a good father means being a good husband who helps mom with household chores, respects her right to use her free time for herself, and does not quarrel with her over trifles.
While mom is resting, you can spend this time with your child. Besides going to their favorite amusement park, for instance, and bringing a lot of joy to the child, you can chat with them, find out what worries them, and make them feel that you are always there. In addition, if your child asks you to fix a toy or a thing that has broken (forget that they break it for the tenth time), in no case refuse to help. In the future, you may be happy to come to their aid in a more complex situation, but recalling that you constantly refused to do this before, the child may avoid involving you.
Be optimistic in the eyes of children. Almost no family can escape difficult and even critical situations, and children, like no others, are sensitive to what is happening. Therefore, solve problems calmly and avoid serious discussions when children are listening. Even if the situation is not an emergency but an everyday one, and you immediately raise your voice, you will set the wrong behavior model. Thus, your child will also panic and yell at the first opportunity, thinking this can solve their problems.
It is worth noting that you should be a loving and gentle parent, but at the same time reasonable and not always indulge the whims of the child. Remember that your role as a parent assumes that you will be a good mentor who, first and foremost, should act for the benefit of the child, even if they do not yet understand it. Try to share your wisdom and skills with them; it will be great if you, not friends or other relatives, teach the kid to do something with their hands. For example, teach them how to play games, build some kind of construction kit, cook their first meal together. In general, try to add pleasant moments to your collection of memories that will be remembered for a lifetime.
The time when children need their parents is actually passing quickly. Before you have time to blink an eye, your son or daughter already has a personal life, develops a career, and prefers communication with peers. Therefore, try to spend as much time with them: who else but a father can plan fun activities? In raising a child, always show justice, encourage them where they deserve it, and help them understand responsibility if they did something wrong. There are no ideal people and fathers, but remember that a little person will inherit your behavior and attitude towards others, so try to show your positive sides as often as possible.